Posts by MamaX3

Pee & Toilet Seats

Truth be told I truly don’t care if the toilet seat is left up or down.  What I really can’t stand though is sitting on a toilet seat covered in pee.  You would sometimes think someone had a goal of missing the bowl all together!  I would rather sit on a toilet in the middle of the night with the seat up and fall into the bowl at least some of that water would be “clean”.  So I have come to an ultimate decision that from now on I will myself lift the lid on the toilet when I am done using it and put it down when I need to use it.  Because obviously repeating myself a zillion times “don’t pee all over the seat”, “lift the lid when you go”, and “wipe the seat when you are done” has made no difference whatsoever.  So I give in and I apologize to their future wives and daughters.

A Lil’ City Rude

So having  to down size I don’t have keep everything where I live but also have a storage garage for seasonal items, keepsakes, and other various things.  One beautifully chilly lightly snowy evening my teenager and I were unloading a few of these boxes and some groceries at our place there were enough boxes and it was cold enough that it made the long flight up to our loft seem even longer.  But we were laughing and having a good time with it anyway.  Main street was basically deserted but from behind me and across the street I heard a man’s voice “do you need any help”.  I felt my body spontaneously stiffen as I ever so slightly turned my head that direction and said “No thank-you we have it”, and turned away.  Realizing in that instant that I was sure to have not had a small town pleasant smile on my face I swallowed hard.  “Really it would be no problem at all” I heard calling back at me.  I fully turned to face him this time completely armed with my smile and said I am sure in a much softer tone “No need really, we are just about done, but thanks so much for the offer!”.  I was met with kind eyes and a gentle smile a connection I should expect where we live now but not one that I am use too.  The fact was we would have loved to have had some help but trust isn’t something that comes to me easy.  Where we had moved from if someone had asked you to help unload your automobile chances are they were more likely loading it into their own and not helping you at all.

On a side note I would also have to say he was also attractive and maybe this is another reason I am not dating.  Obviously a topic worth exploring in my other blog section 😉

Domestic Violence

Domestic Violence: 1 in 4 women will be victims; 65% of victims will keep it hidden from others; 3 out of 4 people will know someone who is a victim even if they aren’t aware of it; 3 women a day are killed by a former or intimate partner; 10 women a week commit suicide due to problems that arise from domestic violence related issues; 1 in 12 women will be stalked in their lifetime by a former or intimate partner, for an average duration of almost two years, 80% of women who are stalked by former husbands are physically assaulted by that partner and 30% are sexually assaulted by that partner, Victims may experience psychological trauma, financial hardship and even death; 76% of female homicide victims were stalked prior to their death…. 

If someone is reaching out grab a hold of them you may be the lifeline they need. Even if they aren’t offer them a lifeline it may be their only way out.

We All Have Closets

3307642698_5465421504 I named this category out of respect for Ash Beckham and her performance at Tedx Boulder. After listening to her monologue, four times in a row, I realized that although I had been living in my own closet.  My “closet” was that we were living in an abusive home and I felt to stupid and embarrassed to tell anyone.   I finally escaped that closet only to trade it for another. So within this series you will read my about my “Closet” and I think I will leave it at that for now and close with my two favorite quotes from the piece:

“Inside in the dark you can’t tell what color the walls are, you just know what it feels like to live in a closet.”

“At some point in our lives we all live in closets and they may feel safe, or at least safe than what lies on the other side of the door, but I am here to tell you that no matter what your walls are made of a closet is no place to live.”

I would recommend that everyone take the time to listen to this video:

My Venue


Recently we have relocated out of an urban area to a small town.  From the second largest city in the state to one you can drive through in under a minute.  I have decided for personally reasons, also connected to the reasons behind our moving, to not share the name of the town.  However sharing our experiences and perspectives of this new adventure should be interesting!

Rants & Raves…

Not sure I need a description for this category.  It tends to happen on a daily basis dealing with anything from the neighbor that tries to ‘weed wack’ my chickens to the schools not allowing tank tops because of arm pit hair.

Have a topic you think might get under my skin?  Please do send me a note, I’d love to hear about it!  Catch me on a “good day” and you never know what you might get.  Good day, Sir!